I will open with this…risky subject matter. At death, there is a beautiful wisdom like no other. As in birth. However, we look at birth differently. Why? Each experience is profound. I believe each can have blessings and privileges. Both can be messy and require many adjustments ahead. Dying has the power to offer how precious life is. It is fleeting, fragile and magnificent. How honored we are to share this sacred time and have the opportunity to share it, learn and discover its depth. This year I have lost a few people very dear to me. Watching and caring for those facing death can be a delicate and deeply personal experience. It was very moving. One moment I found myself running outside to desperately make snow angels and catch snowflakes. A reminder of to celebrate the Joy of living and to completely engage in the present moment. If we open our hearts to share this fleeting time with someone we can be witness to opportunities of profound wisdom. Dying is the state of transition. It offers a vision that only can be gained in the face of death. It is a time for them, their grief, memories, stories, to make or break amends or forgiveness. If the living can suck it up this time without pettiness, needless details and remember we are about to lose this “inheritance.” Inheritance is what we share while they were living not in the dying. The memories you share with each other is what you take with you. The stuff will still be there, Just as the living members aka survivors. As the living moves forward they will have the luxury to grieve their loss and have time to heal. Compassion is key to those you love and to yourself. Yes, get support give yourself room to do what you need to do but this time is fleeting so take from it what you can. You will have time and it is not about you right now. See them as you never had before. Listen to them and what you really hear, see feel. Help them find peace and lay things to rest. Help them imagine. They are still alive and have moments that can offer a very special perspective on life that only the dying can share. Ask them. Life each moment, treasure the good ones when they appear. Remind them it is not the end but a beautiful new beginning. Help take the fear away. It is not TV or what so many have preconceived death, heaven, and hell, ghosts, and demons. Please do not feed fear with fear. Be strong. Yes, it is hard at some points. Use your imagination as your superpower. So what if you’re annoying or they roll their eyes it is so much better than being in fear, even for those moments. Death is a doorway to somewhere else most do not remember or see. There are those who have and do remember. Your loved one will be joined with love, loved ones, ancestors, guides and the divine spirit. They will want you to feel love and live your life well. It is all interconnected. Trust in love, practice compassion. After all, is done take care of you and your spirit. Foster the connection you have with your loved one by holding them in your thoughts with peace. You can develop this but that is another explanation. Reconcile what you can or you will be left with more karmic wheels in motion.
I would like to say a very special Thank You for the support and encouragement to not just think it but to share it and write it. With much love to Medium Tania Thomas. ~ Amanda
